I urge couples to establish shared goals. Not the superficial “hashtag” kind. I’m talking about meaningful commitments that nurture closeness, create shared experiences, and build a vision for the future together. These are the kinds of goals that strengthen bonds and transform resolutions into lasting connection.
Reaching crisis does not mean the relationship is broken. It usually means both partners have been carrying too much alone. If your relationship feels like it is hitting a wall, there is a path forward that is calmer, clearer and genuinely hopeful.
When a couple walks into the therapy room, I don’t just meet two individuals. I meet two entire histories. Their parents, siblings, caretakers, even grandparents. These are all present in the ways a couple speak, argue, reach or retreat. Our early experiences with receiving care have a lifelong impact on how we naturally interact.
Neurodivergent people are everywhere. In every sector, every discipline, at every level of seniority. Many of the world’s most creative thinkers, analysts, designers, leaders, and problem-solvers are ND. So it is not a question of how to “fit” ND people into the workplace. They’re already shaping it. The question is how to increase the comfort and reduce the friction felt by ND people in the workplace.
ND lives have been framed in terms of difficulty, disruption or “special needs”. Yet in my therapy room, I see something very different. I see creative problem-solving, emotional depth, humour, originality, sensitivity, and a capacity for innovation that often outpaces the systems around them.
Even in loving relationships, empathy and intimacy can sometimes misfire. ND couples might mistake different ways of operating as incompatability. We look at strategies to help.
Porn use is not simply a “bad habit”. It can be a symptom of unmet emotional and sensory needs. By addressing these needs directly, couples can work toward more connected, fulfilling sexual relationships.
Restoring emotional and sexual intimacy isn’t about more sex or different experiences – it’s about slowing down enough to notice what sex is standing in for.
ADHD can bring both high desire and unique challenges to intimacy. Learn why couples struggle and the strategies that help them reconnect.
I’ve done a lot of work on reframing intimacy in relationships on the blog recently because I think it’s important. After all, intimacy is one of the big topics that come up in my therapy room and a key focus when I’m working with couples.