Affair recovery as an opportunity to recreate your couple

Infidelity is a huge  blow to the trust that a couple have created. It creates waves of sadness, anger,  hurt, rejection and many more big feelings that can disrupt the life of a couple and their family.

Working with Couples

Working with couples to help repair this trauma requires skill and experience.

Some will separate. They may not be able to tolerate the feelings enough, to explore the underlying unconscious process that have contributed to the outcome .

Others  may use the experience as a turning point that creates growth, deeper connection and new life together.

Exploration of Trust

The most helpful, but painful part of a post affair examination is the exploration of the betrayal and loss of trust. 

Identifying the events

This resonates with anyone trying to recover . However, examination of the causes should begin 2/ 3 yrs before the actuality of the acting out.

There will be events, feelings and personal experiences that have contributed towards the attack on the couple. If identified, there is the possibility of clarity and focus for the work of recovery.

Moving forward as a Couple or Separating Graciously

We are living in a time where normalisation of separation and divorce is prevalent,  yet these still  cause emotional tsunamis for all involved. 

Separation can often be the right choice for a couple or family. However, the honest  examination of how they  have arrived at a point of desperation, can result in a real transition from pain, hurt and fear to the move from an adult marriage into a friendship and co parenting.

The desired outcome of any separation could be that the experience of a once loving relationship is not wasted. That neither is left with feelings of regret, sadness or anger at the choices made, and that children are left feeling loved and safe .

Conversations  with a  skilled practitioner can help co- create a vision of a future for all in which,  whilst feelings are acknowledged, a new horizon can be formulated.