In my therapy room, I see many couples navigating neurodiversity. One thing is consistently true: the intentions are good. Neurodivergent partners are often working hard to understand themselves and build strategies that make life feel more manageable. Neurotypical partners are trying to accommodate, support, and create ease. Both want connection. Both want harmony.
I recently had the pleasure of joining the brilliant hosts of The Girls Bathroom podcast for a conversation all about modern relationships.
From the outside, it may look as though nothing significant has happened. There has been no physical affair. No dramatic confession. No obvious betrayal. Yet the injured partner often senses that something important has changed.
The ending of a relationship will always involve loss. The question is whether two people can navigate it with enough honesty, kindness and dignity to avoid making an already painful process more damaging than it needs to be.
Many of the couples who sit in my therapy room today are navigating challenges that simply did not exist ten years ago.
A major breach of trust occurs when someone deliberately lies to deceive the other. Where couples are concerned, there are two main areas in which lies like this are used: money and infidelity.
Walking on eggshells can happen to any couple if there is unresolved conflict between them. They will both try to avoid contact with each other if they believe that a solution cannot be found.
I urge couples to establish shared goals. Not the superficial “hashtag” kind. I’m talking about meaningful commitments that nurture closeness, create shared experiences, and build a vision for the future together. These are the kinds of goals that strengthen bonds and transform resolutions into lasting connection.